5 Tips on how to achieve a ‘Good Divorce’
Whilst most divorces can bring upset and worry, there is such a thing as a ‘good divorce’.
Despite the reasons behind the separation, if a divorce is handled well, the process can be as smooth as possible, minimising pain and stress along the way.
Below are 5 tips to consider when going through a divorce that could help all parties both in the immediate arrangements and long-term consequences.
1. Get Expert Legal Advice
Contacting a family law solicitor is essential, to ensure all the correct steps are taken and the right advice and guidance has been followed. Even if you think you can come to an agreement on your own, it’s important to seek advice from a family law solicitor to make sure you are getting the best-case conclusion, for both now and the future.
No matter how amicable, formal agreements should be properly documented and where possible, made legally binding.
2. Choose your professionals carefully
Seek practitioners (lawyers, mediators, financial advisors) who are members of organisations with ethical codes (like Resolution) and who commit to constructive, collaborative approaches.
3. Communicate, be open to compromise and negotiate constructively
Show willingness to negotiate rather than hide or deceive, particularly when dealing with children and financial matters. It is likely that you will need to compromise and negotiate in order to find a way forward, so having an open mind set from the start will help.
Using dispute-resolution methods such as collaborative law or mediation can help keep things as amicable as possible.
4. Put the children first
Most importantly, always keep children’s well-being in mind when considering any arrangements involving them and their need for stability, continuity, and emotional security. Where appropriate you should also take into account the child/ren’s views and opinions.
5. Seek support where you can
Upset, stress and some conflict is inevitable, but aim to minimise this wherever possible rather than escalate it. Having emotional support from friends and family can go a long way. Some people find that therapy or counselling is particularly useful in times like this.
Any family issue can be stressful and emotional, but we are here to give you the best advice and discuss your options with you.
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