What makes a ‘Good Divorce’?
When people talk about a “good divorce,” they are not referring to a divorce that is painless or without upset. Divorce often involves a sense of loss, grief, anxiety and change.
What distinguishes a “good” divorce is how the process is handled: whether parties treat each other (and themselves) with dignity, whether decisions are made transparently and fairly, whether children’s welfare is a priority, and whether long‑term consequences are thoughtfully considered.
In other words, a “good divorce” is one in which:
- Conflict is kept to a minimum or kept manageable, rather than escalating issues
- The rights and needs of all parties (spouses and children) are considered.
- The outcome is reasonably fair and sustainable.
- The process seeks to preserve respect, honesty, and integrity.
- The longer-term implications (emotional, financial, co‑parenting) are carefully considered.
As members of Resolution, Jordans Solicitors follow the Resolution Code of Practice. This provides a professional and ethical benchmark for family law practitioners to commit to.
Why it matters:
Minimising Conflict:
High conflict often inflicts lasting damage that can impact mental health, children, finances (through drawn‑out litigation), and on relationships post-divorce (especially in co‑parenting). Avoiding or reducing conflict is essential and in practice could involve choosing dispute-resolution methods such as collaborative law or mediation. It would also involve the encouragement of constructive communication, using non-inflammatory language and avoiding using negotiation as leverage.
Putting Children’s Best Interests First:
Children often suffer the most from divorce, especially if they are drawn into arguments between the parents. A good divorce acknowledges that even in separation, decisions should be child-centred, not parent-centred. For example, prioritising living arrangements that respect the child’s need for stability, continuity, and emotional security as well as considering the child/ren’s views appropriately.
Being Reasonably Fair and Sustainable:
Without transparency, trust, and integrity, agreements reached may be unfair, unstable, or later contested. In order to create a lasting and fair settlement, both parties should be honest and without hidden agendas, misrepresentation, or concealment of assets. A “good divorce” is not one where one party gets everything by deception, but one where both sides negotiate from a more level and honest basis.
Whilst these principles do not guarantee an easy process, neither will they remove emotions, upset or stress, however it can prevent further feelings of animosity. By putting the needs of all parties, especially children, at the centre of the process, it can create a less painful transition into whatever comes next.
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